Monthly Archives: February 2016

Easy Come, Easy Go

People today, especially Americans, have been shown empirically to treat people and relationships as more disposable.  Frequent moving around means a lack of stable friend groups.  And because of globalization, even our stuff is considered more replaceable, and it is carrying over to friendships and romantic relationships.

While this mindset may prevent the sadness that comes from losing someone who has been very important for a long time, the tradeoff is a life that is less-enriched.

Americans vastly overemphasize happiness, even though for most of human social history, experiencing the range of emotions was considered the healthiest and most noble.  Is it time we bring that back?  What are we losing when we gain happiness?  A surface contentment enabled by a lack of attachment is hardly an admirable goal.

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Are Your Emotions from You?

Your level of emotional dialecticism (ability to experience contrasting feelings simultaneously) and emotional differentiation (ability to separate and communicate various emotions) may be products of the country you live in.

Societies that are more into interdependence are also more emotionally healthy and complex.

Therefore, exercising interdependence with your social network may boost wellbeing, much more than locking oneself into self-reliance.

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/01/emotional-complexity-study/426672/